“But Christ as a son over His own house, whose house we are if we hold fast the confidence and the rejoicing of the hope firm to the end.” -Hebrews 3:6
Insecurity is something everyone struggles with. It has a way of slowly creeping into life and whispering lies to your mind. It tells you that you aren’t good enough, or that you aren’t pretty enough, or that you don’t measure up to the “perfect people” on the billboards all around you. Sound familiar?
So, what is the cause behind insecurities? Is it that we don’t have enough self-confidence? Do we need to have more pride in who we are? Wrong. Believe it or not, the problem behind insecurity is actually that we are focusing too much on ourselves. You see, the world teaches us that the most important question we should ask ourselves in life is, “Who am I?” And the answer to that question should be what we place our confidence in. Here is where the problem lies: it’s all about us. But it doesn’t stop there. The world has taken the question “Who am I?” and given it a one-size-fits-all answer. They say you must look a certain way, act a certain way, and dress a certain way to be able to find lasting confidence. So, we spend life trying to measure up to this “perfect person” standard, but no matter how hard we try, we are never enough. Instead, all we see when we ask ourselves the question “Who am I?” is failure, imperfection, inadequacy, and brokenness. The problem is that we become so consumed with focusing on ourselves and trying to fit into the mold the culture has given us that we have taken our eyes off the only true cure for insecurity: Jesus.
In this culture, we are taught that we all have inner beauty. All we have to do is find our “inner star” to be truly confident forever. They say that finding our “inner star” is simple: we just need to fit into the mold they have given us. But, the truth is, as Charles Spurgeon put it, “If any soul has any… beauty, Christ has endowed that beloved soul with all it’s wealth and charms, for in ourselves we are deformed and defiled…There is no beauty in any of us but what our Lord has worked in us.” We have no beauty apart from what Christ has given us. Galatians 6:3 says, “For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself.” Apart from Christ we are nothing. So, really, our lives should not be centered around the question of “Who am I?” but “Who is HE?” Instead of trying to boost our own self confidence and pride, we should find it from Jesus. I love the way Leslie Ludy puts it in her book Set Apart Woman: “We no longer look to ourselves- our own talent, beauty…- to find confidence. Instead we learn to find our confidence in who He is, rather than in who we are.”
Hebrews 3:6 says, “But Christ as a son over His own house, whose house we are if we hold fast the confidence and the rejoicing of the hope firm to the end.” The meaning of confidence in this verse means “freedom” or “free and fearless”. Whenever we ask ourselves who we are, we will always find failure, imperfection, inadequacy, and brokenness. But when we shift our eyes to who Jesus is, we will find perfection, abundance, forgiveness, and beauty. And if you have asked Jesus into your heart, those very same things live inside of you (Galatians 2:20). You can raise your head high with pride, not of yourself, but of the Savior who lives in you. You can live your life in the freedom of true confidence that comes only from God. You can fearlessly conquer all your insecurities with the power of finding your identity in Jesus Christ.