“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” -Ecclesiastes 3:1
How many of you are having a hard time being content at your current stage in life? How many of you are just waiting to be in college? How about waiting for the days to pass until you find your future spouse? You see, so many of us (myself included) struggle with finding fulfillment and being content right now. We are at a stage where we are ready to get out into the world and do whatever God wants us to do.
But have you ever thought about how short your current stage of life is? On average, you are at home under your parents’ authority for 18 years. After that, unless you still live at home with them, you are out on your own, able to make your own decisions. 18 years, while it may seem like a looooong time, really isn’t that long when compared to the average of lifespan of a person. All of the minutes during those 18 years? Gone right after they happen, never to be seen again. And if you’re like most people, you’ve missed a huge opportunity to take advantage of that stage. Think of all you could learn! Most of the time, when we disagree with our parents, we think that they are the issue. When in reality, we are.
Here’s what happens: the older we get, the more experience we get. As a result, we begin to know everything. And then, that leads to us fighting with our parents.
How on earth did we think that we know more than they do? My point with all of that is that we need to use this short, once in a lifetime stage in life to learn from them and build our relationships with them. After we leave home, that relationship is never the same.
Anyone out there sitting around, waiting for prince charming to show up and sweep you off your feet? Before you make that your focus, remember this: after you marry someone, your whole world of relationships changes. No longer will your parents and siblings be the closest to you. Now, your spouse will. That stage of hanging out all the time and sharing your life with your brothers and sisters is gone! Unless you’re an awful bro. or sis, you will probably still stay in touch with them. But those unique moments that you shared and the opportunities for them before your focus changed are gone. Take advantage of those times before they are gone!
Please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying: I am looking forward to life after this current season. I am looking forward to getting married and having my own family. It’s just that recently God has opened my eyes to see that longing for something that I can’t do anything about right now does not help me follow Him. In fact, it just distracts me from what I really need to be doing: serving Him. And where I’m at now in life is pretty cool!
If you’re thinking that finally having your own freedom or getting married will bring you fulfillment, you’re wrong. Only Jesus can satisfy. Why? Because He’s perfect. He created us, and gave us the gift of salvation. Look at these verses from when Jesus was talking to the woman at the well:
“Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinks of this water shall thirst again:But whosoever drinks of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.” -John 4:13-14
Your marriage relationship, if not focused on Christ, will not bring fulfillment. Why? Because there are two sinful people living together! Your freedom from your parents’ authority won’t bring fulfillment either, unless you are focused on Christ. Why? Because you are sinful and you will make mistakes. Only He can satisfy. He is constant.
I guess all of this is to say: enjoy the season of life that you’re in. It won’t happen again. You are in this certain season of life for a reason. Use your season to do things you won’t be able to do once you’re out of it. Find fulfillment in Christ. In Him, and only in Him, you will be content wherever you are.
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